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Convicted of Divorce! Now where are you? It happens thousands of time each day in the US. Some parent is convicted of Divorced and sentenced to the usual punishment - every other weekend with their children, child support payments that raise the standard of living for the custodial parent, and impoverish the non-custodial parent that must somehow still provide a home for their children during that every important visitation It's an outrage when it happens. Sadly, most fiamilies in the US don't understand the devastation until they have gone through it and it is too late.But here is the big question - where do they go after this shock to their system as sunk in? Do they just go on with life living with it, figuring they've received their punishment for being married to the other person and accept their lumps? Do they just move on and try to forget about it?In any given state there are hundreds of thousands of non-custodial parents that are not getting adequate time with their kids. It's an insult to the American value system, its way of life, its family structure. Yet, it is so quiet. Not hardly a roar from the countless victims of this shamefull disease we call divorce.And there is the problem. As a father or mother that has gone through this divorce, who has moved on and risen above it to make life better in the future, you are ignoring one small detail. Things are changing, and your children that you love so much are going to go through the same pain should they ever get divorced. And, coming from a divorced family, their chances are pretty good that they will get divorced. Imagine if your father had fought to make changes in the system - would they be so bad today for you and your children.No, this is not a fight about yourself. This is a fight about your children! Your grandchildren! Will you let them down, or will you stand up and fight for your rights, and the rights of your children like you have never fought before! Will you consistently tell your elected officials that they can not violate your rights to be a parent any longer? Will you attend meetings when you aren't with your kids and help to bring about change. Will you make that $10 donation to a worthy cause that is fighting for your rights?States are organizing, and getting better prepared to take on this fight. www.CRISPE.ORG (http://www.crispe.org/) is a great example, the Shared Parenting Bike Trek of 2007 was a great example, the online petition at www.WashingtonSharedParenting.com (http://www.washingtonsharedparenting.com/) is another great example. Meetup.com has meetings all over the US for divorced paretents, shared parenting advocates, and fathers rights advocates.Here is something to think about. You should have your kids 50% of the time, we agree, there is no argument. But you don't! So, what are you doing with all those extra hours? Working? Playing? Watching TV? Or dedicating them to improving the chances for your kids and other non-custodial parents by dedicating those lost hours to your kids. Is it asking too much to dedicate even 1/10 of those hours to your kids. Or maybe you need to work to make ends meet. Work an extra hour a month and donate the earnings to a shared parenting organization that is fighting for your rights when you don't have time to do the same. President Reagan asked that everyone donate time or money to improve their community. We are asking the same of every non-custodial parent. Come out of the woodwork, donate time or money to help children everywhere, and your possibly your own grandchildren one day. Defending Fatherhood as an Institution Sometimes we hear or read things that move us in special ways. Today, I watched a video clip with music by Andrea Bocelli, with comments and images about fatherhood. The entire piece is moving, but what moved me the most was something at the end of the video. It states.....Fatherhood is an InstitutionWe must Defend it!Think about it. Would you defend your father? Would your father defend you. The answer is of course. My father fought in World War II to defend all families in the United States. He understood the importance of fatherhood, raised his large family of children working two jobs to feed and protect us. And he was rewarded - by losing custody of his children in divorce. As a father that has also lost custody of my children of divorce, I often wonder if things would be this way if my father had fought harder for custody, if he had waged war on the divorce industry, if he had left a different legacy for me and my children and grand children.Yet, I have a new perspective. This is our War! It is our battle now to carry on the American Tradition that our fathers started by fighting for freedom and democracy. It is our responsibility to stand up and fight for our own freedom, and for the right to be parents to our own children, with a government that is designed to defent that freedom, not take it away.It's time we all stand up and question why this institution of Fatherhood is being destroyed. It's time to take politicians that don't understand it's importance out of office. It's time to pick up a megaphone and yell in the street - no more, we must defend our fathers. It's time to organize and make a committment of both time and money to create changes in each and every state to ensure that the Institution of Fatherhood, and the Institution of Motherhood, remain important aspects of all families, with equal access to the children, equal opportunity to educate and love our children, and equal protection under our laws.Please take a moment to watch this compelling video clip. Enjoy the music of Andrea Bocelli, and reflect on what is important to you, and all families. Invest yourself in making change!Watch the video clip by clicking on more........... F4J Front and Center with Abe! Fathers 4 Justice Leaves It's First Mark in the U.S.On Friday, August 17th, two members of the British Fathers 4 Justice, in co-operation with the Fathers 4 Justice US held their first peaceful protest in Washington DC at the Lincoln Memorial. It's incredible that three days later not one word of it has made it on any national news programs, yet this video on Utube has skyrocketed with over 1,300 visits to the video clip.Also incredible is to hear the police yelling for everyone to stop taking photos of the protestors and to not pay atttention to them . Again, these protests are peaceful, climbing the Lincoln Memorial to hang a large banner. It was an incredible first showing for Fathers 4 Justice. See the video clips by clicking more..... NJ Psychologist complaint docs surface Updated 9/16/07 with new Documents! Some new documents have surfaced regarding the complaints against New Jersey Psychologist Marsha Kleinman (http://blog.ussharedparenting.com/?p=57) that outline the complaint against her (misc/Complaint.pdf) by the State of New Jersey, as well as another lawsuit filed by the parents of one of her other patients. The documents are interesting in that they show the power one can possess by being a respected professional.Don't we all call doctors, lawyers, specialists of all types to get help with our problems? We beleive because of their high academics, their oaths to their professions, and the profession itself that they will be fine, outstanding and trustworthy people to put our entire trust into.What is surfacing now is news of a failure of that trust level, which really we have no real reason to have. Lets face it, when Marsha Kleinman was accused by the State of New Jersey, it must have caused a lot of people to say huh! . When Washington State Psychologist Stuart Greenberg (http://washingtonsharedparenting.com/?p=218) was arrested by police for allegedly video filming his clients in the restroom of his office it sent shockwaves through the King County Family Court Services, where judges, social workers, and attorney's had hung their trust on a man that apparently had at least a shady side to his behavior. Imagine the cases that were decided by decided by his expert reports and testimony about the ability and mental state of a parent.In Greenberg's case, its interesting how a $100 per hour psychologist gets elevated to a $250 an hour psychologist (misc/FEE%20AGREEMENT.pdf) simply by beign an evaluator of family court cases, rather than a practicioner that is billing insurance companies. And, also amazing how the rates jump to $350 an hour when they must step into a court of law. Look at the questionare (misc/Questionaire.pdf) that was used in his practice. Who says justices doesn't pay? Apparently, in Washington's Halls of Justice it does, and quite handsomely.What is really ironic in the case of Greenberg who held the answer in his had as to which parent would have custody of a child, denying shared parenting to children that desperately needed it, at a time where it has been found that teen suicides increase with children from single parent families, is the fact that he committed suicide. Further demonstrating that the trust that was put in him as a sensible professional that could be trusted to make life altering decision for families was ill placed.In Kleinman's case, what is alleged is a coaching of two separate minors, and one adult into making false accusations of sexual and domestic violence against two separate fathers. One really has to wonder what could have broken in this womans own mind to cause such a blatant disregards for the professional standards she has been sworn to uphold? What could overide sensible thought process to create such a hatred to be forced upon minors who need and require the love and devotion of their father, and mother in their life.Is it really much different then we we all see each and every day by other professionals such as judges, who blatantly bias judgesments against one parent or the other, or the lawyer who fights the fight, but only until it causes him/her to go against what is commonly accepted by the local bar and the judges themselves. They dare not buck the status quo in court to defend their client when it's not a generally accepted practice. Or the social worker that committs bias in the form of ensuring one parent gains custody of a child, along with the social benefits to that person and the state as well in their Title IV-D goldmine.Please join us in correcting this wrong in your state. Question the practices of these professionals, report their bad behavior to their regulatory agency, report bad judges to RateTheCourts.com, file bar complaints, and stand up and protect your rights and the rights of your children!Please join us on our blog for these stories and others, and drop us a comment or two, let us know your veins are actually full and pumping blood to your brain, and share your thoughts with others that might learn from your pearls of wisdom. 9/16/07 - new court document from legal team for Marsha Kleinman (images/stories/drkleinmananswerdated90407.pdf) Custody Battles - on The Verdict On Canadian television news show The Verdict, Paula Todd interviews Angelo Lobo. Lobo is the filmmaker for a dramatic documentary about the failure of the american child support system. The film, Support! System Down, documents the injustices in american family courts, the effects of US Health and Human Services policy of providing block grants to the states, and the policies that states have developed to support this broken system.At the heart of the debate today is how the policies in the United States support the failure of the family, and provide policies that actually encourage divorce, single parent families, and programs that provide destructive results to families.To see a video clip, read the rest of the story